This scarcity of masculinity is not good. When men possess the qualities of masculinity, they are equipped to lead, develop, deliver and protect in a way that brings glory to God and good to those around them. But when men lose their masculinity, they also lose their spine. They lack courage and confidence, and the whole culture suffers for it.
So, what can be done to put the masculinity back in men? There are several areas that need to be emphasized.
The most important of these is that men need to assume responsibility. The first instance of a man forsaking his masculinity was in the garden of Eden, when Adam blamed his wife for his own sin. This act led him to go into hiding.
When men fail to take responsibility in their own lives today, something similar happens. Men who won’t take responsibility quickly feel like they’re losing control of everything around them. They become guilty, and feel depressed and ineffective. And, like Adam, they go into hiding.
How can this be overcome? If you are a man, you must take responsibility for your life – all of it. You must tell yourself repeatedly, “I am responsible.” If you are married to a man, you must (gently) stop covering for him. He needs to learn from His mistakes, so he will begin to take more responsibility. If you have sons, do not coddle them. Don’t pick up all their messes. Make them responsible for their own lives.
There are other areas that also need to be emphasized if men are going to recover their masculinity. Read more…